Conversations from the Heart

#23 - The Difference Between Wanting Validation and Needing It

January 08, 2024 Yvette Erasmus
#23 - The Difference Between Wanting Validation and Needing It
Conversations from the Heart
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Conversations from the Heart
#23 - The Difference Between Wanting Validation and Needing It
Jan 08, 2024
Yvette Erasmus

As we navigate the delicate interplay between self-expression and the quest for approval, we unravel the truth that seeking affirmation isn't the villain we often paint it to be. In this episode, we talk about setting our expectations on how people would respond to our creative output and opening our minds to the possibilities of various reactions.

Regarding therapy, things can get complicated, can't they? It's like a dance of words and emotions, where sometimes you're unsure who's leading. We strip back the layers of uncertainty that cloak the therapist-client relationship as we explore how to foster clear, assertive communication. 

Finally, we talk about honoring plans and the respect that comes with it, not just for others but for ourselves. Whether it's navigating a last-minute change of plans with grace or aligning your free spirit with the expectations of those around you, this episode provides strategies for clear, compassionate communication. 

Show notes:
(0:51) How can I enjoy my work and let go of the fact that not everyone needs to love it?
(11:29) How can I honor my need to be seen and heard even when the feedback I receive is not what I expected?
(18:20) How do I ask my therapist for a roadmap after being blown off and dealing with the fear of asking again?
(41:31) How do I deal with my friend who feels disrespected when I change my mind about our plans?
(51:08) Outro

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Show Notes

As we navigate the delicate interplay between self-expression and the quest for approval, we unravel the truth that seeking affirmation isn't the villain we often paint it to be. In this episode, we talk about setting our expectations on how people would respond to our creative output and opening our minds to the possibilities of various reactions.

Regarding therapy, things can get complicated, can't they? It's like a dance of words and emotions, where sometimes you're unsure who's leading. We strip back the layers of uncertainty that cloak the therapist-client relationship as we explore how to foster clear, assertive communication. 

Finally, we talk about honoring plans and the respect that comes with it, not just for others but for ourselves. Whether it's navigating a last-minute change of plans with grace or aligning your free spirit with the expectations of those around you, this episode provides strategies for clear, compassionate communication. 

Show notes:
(0:51) How can I enjoy my work and let go of the fact that not everyone needs to love it?
(11:29) How can I honor my need to be seen and heard even when the feedback I receive is not what I expected?
(18:20) How do I ask my therapist for a roadmap after being blown off and dealing with the fear of asking again?
(41:31) How do I deal with my friend who feels disrespected when I change my mind about our plans?
(51:08) Outro

Thank you for tuning in. Remember to subscribe so you get notified when I publish an episode weekly.

Here are more ways to connect with me: