Conversations from the Heart
Listen to live mini-coaching moments focused on helping people connect with themselves and others by speaking their truth with kindness and compassion, and listening through new filters. Get new scripts for stuck situations, hear new ways of responding to old relationship dynamics and get guidance on how to approach these situations with empathy, self-awareness, and effective communication strategies. Here, we emphasize understanding both one's own needs and the needs of others, creating safe spaces for vulnerable conversations, and finding ways to express oneself authentically while respecting others' boundaries.
Episodes
68 episodes
#67 - 8 Practical Insights for Setting Boundaries
This week's podcast features one of my favorite discussions: Boundaries. It can be hard to set boundaries with life-long friends, and this week's discussion explores the complications concerning caring for ourselves, and helping oth...
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Season 2
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Episode 15
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31:05
#66 - Caring About vs Responsible For - All About Friendships
When they're good, our friendships can greatly contribute to the overall quality of our life. When they're hard, our friendships can make life really difficult.On this episode of Conversations from the Heart, we talk about all kin...
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Season 2
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Episode 14
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56:27
#65 -When to Stay, When to Let Go: Honest Conversations About Love, Family, and Friendship
One of the hardest decisions we can make is to dismantle a marriage when there are children involved.On this episode of the podcast, we uncover how to make the decision of whether to stay in or leave a marriage because of the kids. ...
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Season 2
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Episode 13
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27:56
#64 - Stop Being Polite: How to Say the Disruptive Thing
It's domination programming that teaches us the louder we raise our voices, the faster the other person will capitulate and join our side.However, in order to affect real change, the key is to get others to care about what it is we're c...
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Season 2
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Episode 12
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34:03
#63 - Setting Terms of Engagement
The locus of control in a boundary lies with us, and concerns what we are willing and unwilling to do.One of the data points we can use when negotiating our boundaries is how others engage with us.In this podcast episode, we dis...
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Season 2
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Episode 11
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44:55
#62 - How to Build Emotional Connections with People Who Struggle to Express Feelings
It can be incredibly painful when we find ourselves in relationships where we long for deeper authentic connection but can't seem to elicit that desire in others.In this episode, we discuss:1:11 How can I connect with ...
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Season 2
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Episode 10
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47:06
#61 - Letting Go of What You "Should" Do
It's easy to let our thoughts sink into the "shoulds" that have been programmed into us:"I should be able to handle this: other people say it's easy.""He should be able to get ready and go to school by himself - he's o...
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Season 2
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Episode 9
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52:39
#60 - How to Work With People As They Are
When we want to stay in relationship with people who have hurt us, it's important for us to figure out a way to connect with them in a way that keeps us open hearted and also protected.But how, exactly, can we show up open heartedly in ...
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Season 2
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Episode 8
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39:46
#59 - Transforming Cultural Norms for Healthier Relationships
We've all been well trained in the rules of the game we all know. We've been taught to be dutiful children, loving siblings, tolerant friends.But when some of us realize that we've outgrown the status quo, it can feel like an act ...
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Season 2
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Episode 7
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50:27
# 58 - Can We Inspire Care from Others?
Love cannot be ordered up. Care cannot be demanded. If we want certain people to love us, or care about us, is there anything we can do to make that more likely? This episode explores various relational moves...
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Season 2
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Episode 6
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48:36
#57 - How Can I Get You to Be Real With Me?
We may be interested in living an authentic, honest life.Unfortunately, that doesn't necessarily mean those we're closest to are interested in doing the same thing.The easiest way to encourage those around us to show up authenti...
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Season 2
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Episode 5
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47:22
#56 - How to Get More of What You Want: Difficult Family Member Edition
Navigating relationships with difficult family members can sometimes be a Herculean task.This episode highlights four main strategies for walking the path of authentic communication with family members who can be hard to connect with:
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Season 2
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Episode 4
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46:11
#55 - How to Stay Engaged When You Want to Run
Changing our default patterns in relationships takes intention and effort. Whether we're wanting to act differently with loved ones at home or with strangers in public, relational transformation starts by turning inward and working with o...
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Season 2
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Episode 3
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43:13
#54 - Fitting In vs. Belonging
This week's episode explores themes of belonging, and the human need we all share for community.We explore:1:59 I don't feel like I belong anywhere5:50 Rising into grandiosity or sinking into sha...
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Season 2
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Episode 2
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48:02
#53 How To Change Other People (Nonviolently, of course)
This week's episode is an investigation into working things through in relationship: with our extended family, our mothers, our daughters, and ourselves.We explore:1:18 The dynamics I see in my nieces and...
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Season 2
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Episode 1
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53:05
#52 - Addressing Racism at Work
This week's caller is looking for scripts that can help her call out some discriminatory dynamics at work. She asks: "I am facing new challenges in my work environment. More specifically, I am noticing weird racial dynamics (...
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Season 1
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Episode 52
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23:02
#51 What Can I Do When Someone Hears Blame in Everything I Say?
It's a common - if painful - dynamic: we want to share our pain with another in the hopes of receiving empathy, but their best move is to try and fix our pain by finding fault with something we've said or done.It is so hurtful to ...
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Season 1
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Episode 51
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27:09
#50 - 4 Scripts for Common Situations
It can be so difficult to know what to say next. Whether you need to have a personal or professional conversation, sometimes finding the words are hard.In this week's podcast, we script out four different conversations for four di...
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Season 1
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Episode 49
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48:42
#49 - When Belief Systems Collide
What do you do when you discover that a friend or loved one sees something in a polar opposite way to how you're seeing it? Are you able to stay in a place of grounded, open curiosity, or do you find yourself getting worked up and...
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Season 1
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Episode 50
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48:06
#48 - What can I do when you get triggered?
As we run through our everyday lives, we'll inevitably bump up against other humans who might be less resourced than we are. Catching others as they're having a bad day can provide us stellar opportunities to increase our own empa...
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Season 1
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Episode 48
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45:30
#47 - Working with Anxiety
Do you ever worry that empathy is getting in the way? In this week's episode, one caller worried that empathizing with his mother in law's fear of having cancer was actually making her anxiety worse, and not better. ...
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Season 1
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Episode 47
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49:41
#46 - How can I use NVC to smooth out tension with my adult daughter?
It's only human to want the traditional NVC formula to solve all our connection problems.However, what the traditional observation, feelings, needs and request paradigm often does best is help us sort our own stuff out internally, first...
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Season 1
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Episode 46
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18:58
#45 - How Can I Listen to My Spouse When I'm Feeling So Defensive?
Do you find yourself plotting out how you're going to respond to someone even while they're still talking to you?We all do this.And it never works well. Not for any of us.Upleveling our listening skills is one of t...
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Season 1
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Episode 45
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30:53
#44 - The Sweet Spot Between Giving and Receiving
In this week's mini-episode, we delve into the needs that can be met when our family steps up to contribute to our lives in meaningful, important ways, and the loneliness and grief that can occur when they are no longer willing to help....
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Season 1
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Episode 44
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16:37
#43 - How Can Rules be in Alignment with Nonviolence?
Having good boundaries is not the same as being violent, and enforcing rules is not coercion.In this week's episode, we unpack a professor's desire to limit coercion and violence in her classroom and her desire to create a tight contain...
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Season 1
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Episode 43
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14:00