Conversations from the Heart
A weekly, soul-nourishing podcast offering psychologically grounded, heart-centered reflections on human relationships, inner healing, and compassion-based communication.
Focused on live mini-coaching moments to help callers shift from reactive, domination-based communication to collaborative, heart-centered connection. Listen for new scripts for stuck situations, new ways of responding to old relationship dynamics and guidance on how to approach these situations with empathy, self-awareness, and effective communication strategies. Here, we emphasize understanding both one's own needs and the needs of others, creating safe spaces for vulnerable conversations, and finding ways to express ourselves authentically while respecting others' boundaries.
Conversations from the Heart
#51 What Can I Do When Someone Hears Blame in Everything I Say?
It's a common - if painful - dynamic: we want to share our pain with another in the hopes of receiving empathy, but their best move is to try and fix our pain by finding fault with something we've said or done.
It is so hurtful to be blamed for our own pain.
In this week's episode, a caller asks a universally applicable question: "What can I do when I share my pain with my spouse and he blames me for it?"
Highlights include:
- 2:50 If all I get is blame, why should I even try to have the conversation?
- 7:03 How to ground a discussion in a micro moment
- 10:03 Scripts that help "waking up" feel pleasurable and not painful
- 12:05 Doing the inner work necessary for successful conversations
- 15:15 A script for getting to "Yes"
- 22:54 "I'm not trying to change you."
- 24:24 The role of our defensive system
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