Conversations from the Heart
A weekly, soul-nourishing podcast offering psychologically grounded, heart-centered reflections on human relationships, inner healing, and compassion-based communication.
Focused on live mini-coaching moments to help callers shift from reactive, domination-based communication to collaborative, heart-centered connection. Listen for new scripts for stuck situations, new ways of responding to old relationship dynamics and guidance on how to approach these situations with empathy, self-awareness, and effective communication strategies. Here, we emphasize understanding both one's own needs and the needs of others, creating safe spaces for vulnerable conversations, and finding ways to express ourselves authentically while respecting others' boundaries.
Conversations from the Heart
#61 - Letting Go of What You "Should" Do
It's easy to let our thoughts sink into the "shoulds" that have been programmed into us:
"I should be able to handle this: other people say it's easy."
"He should be able to get ready and go to school by himself - he's old enough now."
"I should have paid my taxes weeks ago - why does this feel so hard?"
However, running our lives on "shoulds" often robs us of the joy and creative life-energy that is our human divine right, and robs us of our need for choice fulness.
In this episode, we have three different discussions centered around what we "should" or "shouldn't" do, as we dive into the idea of authentic choice fulness:
- 1:10 Help! I don't want to go back to my dentist!"
- 16:56 How to give a voice to competing parts of ourselves
- 22:08 What does healing look like?
- 24:20 How can I have "radical acceptance" for a situation that's hard?
- 32:29 How do I look after myself while also caring for the needs of my child?
- 36:02 Is there such a thing as an "anti-need"?
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