Conversations from the Heart

#81 - Unlearning the Things That No Longer Serve Us

Yvette Erasmus

From the moment we enter the world, we begin learning.  We absorb the rules of our families, communities, and larger societies.  Some of these lessons serve us well, fostering connection, growth, and resilience.

But others come from systems designed to control and dominate, systems that teach us to trade our authenticity for approval, our agency for compliance, and our creativity for conformity.

In this episode, we speak with Carol and Jen who are working with ways to voice their needs with an eye to getting those needs met.  We discuss:

  • 1:02 Opening thoughts
  • 3:45 How can I create a more mutual friendship with an old friend?
  • 9:55 How to check out my assumption with my friend
  • 16:06 I'm scared to speak up about what I want
  • 23:20 My suggestion was shot down in a meeting and I collapsed afterwards.  How can I show up when I'm shut down?
  • 27:20 Step 1:  Accepting where I am
  • 28:00 Step 2:  Ask a question.  ANY QUESTION.
  • 35:25 How to lead with more "I" and less "You"
  • 40:06 Shadow work:  I get to take up space
  • 47:30 What can I do for myself once I've woken from a freeze response?


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