Conversations from the Heart
Listen to live mini-coaching moments focused on helping people connect with themselves and others by speaking their truth with kindness and compassion, and listening through new filters. Get new scripts for stuck situations, hear new ways of responding to old relationship dynamics and get guidance on how to approach these situations with empathy, self-awareness, and effective communication strategies. Here, we emphasize understanding both one's own needs and the needs of others, creating safe spaces for vulnerable conversations, and finding ways to express oneself authentically while respecting others' boundaries.
Conversations from the Heart
#83 - Making Peace with Being the Villain in Someone Else's Story
Have you ever been cast as the "villain" in someone else's story? Perhaps you're seen as the one who got it wrong, didn't do enough, or failed to meet expectations?
Today, we explore what it means to hold our ground in relationships without getting defensive, to listen without justifying, and to accept that sometimes, people need to see us as the problem while they process their own pain.
In today's conversation, Jill's daughter just sent her a long list of parenting grievances. How can she respond with love and understanding without falling into the trap of proving herself?
And, Jaya keeps finding herself in relationships where she feels small. How does she break the cycle of submission, reclaim her voice, and recognize when a dynamic isn't worth staying in?
Together we'll explore:
✨ Why defensiveness keeps us stuck—and what to do instead
✨ How to recognize the real need behind someone’s anger or blame
✨ The difference between explaining and connecting
✨ How to trust your own voice, even when someone else tries to rewrite the narrative
✨ When to stay, when to engage, and when to let go
Show Notes:
- 1:01 Opening comments
- 3:43 My daughter wrote me an angry text and I'm not sure how to best respond.
- 20:55 The healing is not in litigating the past, but happens in the present.
- 27:04 My pattern in relationships is to collapse. How can I be more assertive?
- 30:47 The key to asking for what we want
- 41:28 Healing requires a regulated nervous system
- 49:23 Closing thoughts
If you've ever felt misunderstood, unfairly judged, or struggled to maintain connection while standing in your truth, this episode is for you.
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